Rudder 12 Mar 2007 03:26 pm
A Realization.
I forgot what it was like to have a “significant other” to think about. It has been a while. I’m not complaining understand, but loosing touch with what that is all about has made me a bit insensitive to the plight of those around me who do have one. And I have to realize that those around me who do have one have an obligation at the least, to consider them when making plans for “self-time” and if I want time with a family member or friend, one-one-one or a grouping, I must realize they have other responsibilities and might not be able to have the time or, for lack of better word “freedom” to “get away” as it were.
It is taking a lot of reflection and recall back in my time to remember when I was in love and began a family. My priorities and focus was there. The give and take that occurs to build a relationship and the learning process of all that and the ups and downs in the process. And the shift that takes place as children enter the equation and finding balance and direction or focus of my attentions to the additions to my/our lives. No one is ever prepared for all that but we do the best we can as we understand it, or think we do.
And as we go through the transitions from being single to not single, or from the easy decisions for ourself to more complicated decisions for the “us” or “we” we drift away from some of our significant relationships, and rightfully so, prior to our new more focused relationships of our future life. But it can go too far, sadly, and get lost. And it is hard to keep in touch in many ways with some and “going separate ways” happens. Best wishes, good luck, thanks for the memories, kind of thing. Moving on…
Now, I think I hear a reader saying something like, “Bob, get a life! JESUS CHRIST! You need to find some one or get laid or something! Get over it!” Actually, I am not closed to someone coming into my life if it happens. It hasn’t yet. The next point…well that is personal and I will not say any more on it, and the last point, “get over it”, well that is done. has been for a long time. Moving on…
The point of this post, is that I have been and just realized that I have been insensitive to others complexities and commitments in their lives. And for that, I apologize. It is not my intent to complicate their lives but to enhance it as a contributor and not a complication or burden.
I know you all have things to do and things you want to accomplish, so do I. Invite me into your lives when you want me or need me. I will do the same. If neither of us can at the moment we will just have to understand or try to understand two words…”I can’t.” But, hopefully next time.
A Haunting.
‘
“Hey diddle diddle the sun and the moon, little boy blue and the man in the moon, when we get togther dad? I don’t know when, but we’ll have a good time then son, we’re gonna have a good time then.” Harry Chapin.
That is a heavy song for a Dad to listen too. And a step-Dad for that matter who loves their step-child and they love him.
I tried to get together all the men in my life I feel especially close to and mean a lot to me. My sons, my Best Friend, my nephew, and his friend, both are like sons to me, and my potential son-in-law whom I “like a lot” for a fun weekend of some work and quality “beer time.” It didn’t work out this time. Silly me, I sensed it would have been a good thing for all of us, but the timing wasn’t right for it this time. Maybe because I didn’t include inviting Rick. Who knows?
Another time maybe, but not this time. It just wasn’t in the cards.
I realize we all have our responsibilities and so do I. It would have been fun, but as it is now, it could have or maybe would have cause us other problems that we just don’t need to have this time or at this time.
Lets not “hey diddle diddle” too long if possible. Even it we have to make it a co-ed weekend to do it!
Time goes by faster than you realize. It has for me.
Another time perhaps.